For the first few months after birthing my baby boy my back really hurt. I mean really hurt. I found it difficult to move and especially difficult to stand up. Sometimes I’d literally be stuck on the couch, unable to stand up without help. And even with help it really hurt and had to happen ultra slowly. By the end of each day I was simply knackered. By 4pm I’d really be hanging out for Simon to come home so he could take over the lifting-and-putting-down-thing that comes with taking care of a baby.
Bedtime was such a relief … finally I could down and rest. A night’s sleep (despite the fact that sleep was and still is somewhat intermittent) made such a difference to my back, mostly because I got to be horizontal for a good few hours. So by the time morning came I was ready for another day of picking up and putting down my gorgeous baby.
Because it was easier on my back, night feeds were always done in bed, lying down. (In those days even just sitting in a normal sitting position was intensely uncomfortable for me. My sacroiliac joints had become highly sensitive and that area of my back would hurt). Anyway, because Joshi sleeps in bed between us, with fairly minimal effort I was able to slide the little organic changing mat that he sleeps on into position and then feed him.
For those of you who are unfamiliar with EC’ing (Elimination Communciation), it’s basically just reading and responding to your baby’s/child’s “I need the toilet’ signals. Although we started EC’ing Joshi from 10 days old, we only did it during the day because my bad back situation really put me off taking Joshi to the potty during the night.
And then… two weeks ago, when Joshi was just over 5.2months old, I decided to give it a go, the whole night time elimination communication thing, because my back was feeling strong again. (I’ve been going to this really great osteopath, a very gifted one, who said that my back issues were because my internal organs had all shuffled about and he’s helped put them back in the proper places again! It may sound a bit wacky, but since seeing him my back has healed really quickly and is now feeling strong again).
So each time Joshi woke for a feed I took him to the potty first. I was literally amazed … every time I took his nappy off it was dry. So I can now say, from experience, that it’s true what I’ve heard – babies wake when they need to go to the loo, not because they’ve already gone! The first night I EC’d him Joshi went to the potty twice in total and both times when I removed his nappy it was dry.
The next night I did it again and the same thing happened … and then again the night after that. I honestly thought it was going to be way harder than this. I believed that night time elimination communication was for the die hards. But as it turns out, EC’ing has been much easier for us through the night than during the day. It’s really a no-brainer: all I need to do is take him to the potty whenever he wakes up.