I love the beginning of a year. It’s always such a great time for reflection. For looking back over the last year. For seeing where I am now … and deciding what intentions I’d like to move forward with.
Before I became a mum my new year intentions were more goals-like. I can remember planning holidays to exotic places, setting goals to teach a certain amount of Art of Living and Yoga courses, get a book published, meditate more regularly, etc. I had so much time – heaps and heaps of time to decide exactly what I wanted to do with. Now that I’m a mum time is at a premium. When free time occurs I’m very mindful about how I spend it. So this year my intentions are very different to what they’ve been before. I like to think they’re simpler, kinder, gentler, more nurturing. While I do have a few goals overall they are definitely less goal orientated because I really want to remind myself about the importance of life not just being a series of things to do or ‘somewhere to get to’ and more about really being in each moment. I want my intentions this year to contribute towards improving the quality of my day-to-day life, not only as a mum or a woman, but as a spiritual being. And I’m sharing some of my mamma-type ones with you, in the hope that some of them may resonate with you or inspire you …
My Intentions for 2015 –
Start blogging again – If you’ve been wondering where I’ve been for the past few months – I’ve been busy starting a new business as a civil celebrant and although it was a tough decision to put on the shelf doing something that I love so much, I couldn’t afford the time to blog whilst building my new website and business – Sydney Celebrant Services. I’m happy to say that it’s all up and running now and I have the firm intention to blog regularly throughout 2015. So you’ll be hearing a lot more from me this year. Thank you for your patience!
Take care of your self
You’ve heard the saying, “Happy wife – happy life,” right? This year I want to remind myself of that more. I know that when I take care of myself I’m automatically happier, healthier, better equipped to take care of Joshi, more available in general and more enthusiastic about life. So I’m moving into the year ahead with the firm intention to take myself on at least one Art of Living retreat, preferably in the presence of my guru. I’m also setting the intention to prioritise taking care of my sleep, eating a healthy vegetarian diet, taking care of my mind and keeping it positive and meditating and doing some breathing practices every day.
Spend more time together as a family and do less tag-teaming
Yesterday the three of us (Simon, Joshi and I) went out together as a family. It was really lovely. It made me realise that so often we tag-team in order to get stuff done. Either Simon is with Joshi while I’m doing something or I’m with Joshi while Simon’s get something done. But when we all spend time together as a family it’s really fun … and bonding. I’ve also noticed that Joshi often asks for us to both to be there. Kids are really amazing that way. They often know what’s good for everyone – not because they were thinking it through, intellectualising, but because they are coming straight from their beautiful hearts.
Move to a home on the ground floor with a garden
We live in apartment on the first floor. It’s gorgeous. It’s bright, it’s light and people are always commenting about how peaceful it is here, but the time to move is fast approaching. For a long time now I’ve been dreaming about a place to live where Joshi can run straight outside the door into the garden without needing either of us to be with him. I’ve been feeling the importance of living on the ground, on the earth, not on the first floor. And then recently my osteopath told me something very interesting. He said that there is now research which shows the negative impacts that high rise living has on your heath. While I get Joshi out as much as I can – always once, sometimes twice a day and get his shoes off so that he can feel the earth beneath his feet, I can’t wait to provide him with a home where he can run straight out onto the lawn as much as he likes and get heaps of grounding.
For almost 3 years now I’ve been the main carer for Joshi. It’s been challenging. It’s been hard. It’s also been amazing. And now I’m ready to take help. I think the time has finally come to utilise family daycare once a week and I’m really looking forward to having a bit more time for myself in which I can do the things that I need and want to do.
Spend more time as a couple
Since Joshi was born Simon and I have been on 3 dates. That averages out at one date a year … And two of them have been in the last two days, thanks to my mother-in-law. I have realised that it’s important for us to take time out and that it’s not only okay to do that, it’s important to, even if it’s just a few hours in which we can actually have a conversation.
Lastly, I’d like to share with you a prayer which I’ve written for us all.
My Prayer For Humanity In 2015
May we grumble, complain and criticise less.
May we be grateful for what we have and less focussed on what we don’t.
May we walk more lightly on the planet.
May we reuse and recycle more and consume less.
May we take the time to be there for others.
May we fight less and forgive more.
May we spend more time in nature.
May we be less focussed on money and more on friendliness, compassion sharing and generosity.
May we listen more and talk less.
May we laugh, dance, sing, play and love more.
May we celebrate each moment, not just the biggies.
May we be kinder, gentler, more accepting, not just to others but to ourselves.
May we uplift each other.
May we ask ourselves, not ‘what can I get?’, but ‘how can I serve others?’
Happy new year everyone!
With much love,